Most of us believe that happiness comes from having material things. We also believe that happiness can come from being around others and often time we forget that we can bring happiness within ourselves. When we forget, happiness leaves us. Unlearned lessons of the past will arise, and when we focus on just the negative we tend to miss the positive growth and awareness that comes when we face certain repeated behavior patterns. Sometimes when negative feelings arise and we choose to react to those negative vibes and believe it to be a truth it throws us through loops of repetitive behaviors that hold us back. The ego creates drama and remembers how the last experiences were experienced and take them on as truths and it carries on until we become aware of it repeating. Until this awareness is made we can miss how to truly live a fulfilled life. If we are always reacting to the same particular limiting behaviors then there is no growth. When we don’t grow we are not really living to the fullest.
The ego is tricky. It’s there for a purpose, for an example, to be used to pay attention to not fall off a cliff. This seems to most of us to be a common sense concept but if we didn’t have an ego we would not live long. The ego tends to develop on the information that we have gathered over time and is determined to be common sense. It IS for safety, survival and creativity ONLY. Survival of course can also be exaggerated and used as a justification for a fear. Fears come from ego. Fear is an illusion. Everything that has been programmed into us individually from what we have learned growing up to believe to be complete truths are not necessarily truths. These “truths” can end up making any situation bigger than it appears. When we feel hurt, angry, frustrated, jealousy, insecurities etc (all fed by ego), it means we need to pay attention to the clues to end the loop cycle that slows us down in life. If a thought causes us to feel negative we can choose how to react from the thought. If we process the thought with wisdom and not negative emotions we begin to see where we can alter our own responses to any situation. This takes so much practice because we have all be programmed to “behave a certain way” and have even taught ourselves defense and coping mechanisms to handle certain experiences. We are not here to hold ourselves back with such a limiting mind-frame. Oftentimes we go to different levels to feed egos only to repel against their true selves.
There’s a healthy and an unhealthy version of ego.
Limited beliefs and the unhealthy ego in my opinion, personally is how we experience hell on earth. Sometimes when we feel like we are in hell,(as we often say) it’s actually the ego not liking the present moment. The ego is always in a hurry, and loving conditionally while our true spirit is pure patience and unconditional love. When we do not allow room for patience, ego will open the door in any given split second. It’s so quick that you believe the moment to be a problem, for example. When it is truly not a problem, just our thoughts from ego alone can create a problem just by its reactions to the thoughts. Our thoughts can teach us lessons if we practice being aware of how ego sneaks in. In our actions from our thoughts, especially repeated ones creating those endless loops, we can choose to change it completely.
It’s time to make a decision in letting go of the loops because sometimes they are addicting. Our own thoughts can become so habitual that changing our perception of the outside can be limiting, therefore close connections can be challenging.
You cannot remove ego completely because it is a part of the human experience. Ego is a part of our personality but it doesn’t not need to be part of our behaviors. Our behaviors can be altered for quality use by creating inspirations from ego. It is up to the individual themselves to determine what is unhealthy and healthy forms of ego. Most of us think and react based on unhealthy thoughts that limit us from growth and living a happier life experience. We each can experience a genuine happy life.